Women We Watch: Ruby Rare
Curious, inclusive, silly, sexy, PINK!
I come from a sexual health background working with young people, but when I started running workshops for adults I realised they were asking the same questions I hear from teenagers! The vast majority of us either had no sex ed as younger people, or it was crap, which massively impacts our attitudes to and understandings of sex throughout our lives. I wanted to write this book as an antidote to all that crap sex ed.
To be honest, I just wanted something really clear, so people knew what they were getting into. Plus there is something so satisfying about bringing out a book that has SEX in massive gold writing on the cover - it starts the conversation before you even open it!
We are handed so many rules and expectations of what sex ‘should’ look like, and this book encourages you to break away from that and have sex in a way that truly feels right for you. There’s no such thing as normal - our bodies, desires, and the ways we want to have sex all differ vastly, and rather than feeling shame about that, it’s cause for celebration!
Aren’t they incredible?! I’m so grateful to Sofie, she brought the book to life. From the start we wanted to make sure the illustrations were not only depicting a broad range of bodies, races, abilities and activities, but we wanted to show them having a really fun sexy time. I basically wanted people to get a bit turned on while they were reading, because the illustrations are so luscious, and I think we made that happen! Sofie included so many illustrations of jelly in the book (which I have a bit of a thing for), and there’s a sexy poached egg in there for her - I really feel the book reflects both our playful attitudes to sex.
I just think it’s ridiculous these topics are still so taboo! They’re things that so many of us experience, and so they’re worth talking about. And by discussing them openly and honestly, I hope I’m shedding some of those layers of shame that have been built up around them for my audience.
Rosy Pendlebaby (@thepandlebaby) and I have been friends for years, and our conversations kept coming back to how life modelling and life drawing transformed our attitudes to our bodies, as well as our art. So Body Love Sketch Club is a way of us creating a celebratory space for others to experience this for themselves - by drawing and posing if they fancy it!
I whip my clothes off, put on Scissor Sisters, and have a 10 minute disco! There’s nothing like a cheeky naked dance to make me feel fully connected to my body, and when you’re feeling grateful for your body it leaves far less space for negative thoughts.
There may be a podcast on it’s way! And we’re already chatting about how Sex Ed 2 would work…
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If I’m trying to be cool, something by David Byrne. But in reality it’s still the OG Spice Girls album.
Pink, obvs. Although my hairdresser did make me look like a tequila sunrise once, that was incredible.
I’m legally married to my Doxy magic wand.
Big chunky earrings, always!
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